If you try very hard to be something according to a fixed picture in your mind, or your animus, then this means suppressing what you actually are; and that is the source of the depression and the resentment. It is when a woman desperately tries to model herself after some collective and sterile image of a totally good and perfect mother, without acknowledging that there are two poles to the axis and that they are forever conjoined, then all negative feelings such as anger, aggression and the need to put oneself first are repressed and forced into the unconscious. What starts out as healthy negative feelings becomes infected on that unconscious level with the archetypal experience of anger and aggression, and then in walks the Terrible Mother with her outrage and grievances.
— Howard Sasportas Liz Greene
Depression and resentment are not failures of will — they are receipts. The soul keeps records of everything the image requires it to disown, and it presents the bill without mercy. What Greene is pointing at here is not a flaw in mothering but a flaw in the logic of perfection itself: the belief that if the image is held rigorously enough, the darkness will stay away. It will not. It was never separate from the light to begin with. The axis Greene names — good mother and terrible mother as forever conjoined poles — means that every act of suppression is simultaneously an act of inflation, because what gets pushed underground does not diminish; it accumulates charge, picks up the full voltage of the archetype, and returns as something far larger and more ungovernable than the original anger ever was.
The woman in this passage is not pathologically angry. She is someone who tried to pay in advance — tried to buy safety through goodness — and discovered that the unconscious does not honor that currency. The Terrible Mother walks in not because the woman failed but because the strategy of perfection always, structurally, fails. Anger and self-interest are not enemies of care; they are what keeps care from hollowing the carer out entirely.
Howard Sasportas Liz Greene·The Development of Personality: Seminars in Psychological Astrology, Volume 1·1987