Bly Writes

The mark of Descent, whether undertaken consciously or unconsciously, is a newly arrived-at lowliness, associated with water and soul, as height is associated with spirit. "Water prefers low places." The lowliness happens particularly to men who are initially high, lucky, elevated. The way down and out usually separates the Jung man from his companion flyers and from their support, and it makes him aware of a depression that may have been living unnoticed in him for years. A mean life of ordinariness, heaviness, silences, cracks in the road, weightiness, and soberness begins.

— Robert Bly

Bly is describing something that does not announce itself as a gift. The man who has been elevated — by talent, by luck, by the pneumatic conviction that ascending is the point — discovers that the floor was always there, and that reaching it is not failure but arrival at a different kind of ground. Notice that he calls it lowliness, not humility; the word matters because humility can still carry spiritual ambition inside it, a pride in having bent the knee correctly. Lowliness is less convertible. It just sits there, heavy and damp, next to the cracked pavement.

What the passage does not say is that this descent produces wisdom, or that the depression resolves into something higher. It says a mean life begins. Ordinariness, weightiness, silences — these are not stations on the way to somewhere else. The logic that says *if I endure this long enough I will break through to the other side* is still the same logic that built the elevation in the first place. What Bly is pointing at is the soul's actual weather: not the ascent, not the breakthrough, but the weight of a life that is no longer pretending to be more buoyant than it is. Water prefers low places not because low places are better, but because water does not argue with gravity.


Robert Bly·Iron John: A Book About Men·1990