firefighters are activated, and the danger of serious harm goes up, when external or internal managers deny, shame, or coerce the firefighter. Therefore, when firefighters react, we get curious.
This passage articulates the IFS thesis that firefighter danger is context-dependent—specifically produced by shaming or coercion—and that curiosity and compassionate engagement, coupled with the promise of exile healing, are the only credible pathways to their de-escalation.
, Internal Family Systems Therapy, 1995thesis