The concordance 15 witnesses
Orientation
Satisfaction would not complete the lover; it would abolish him. Anne Carson builds Eros the Bittersweet on this severe arithmetic: the Greek eros denotes want, lack, desire for what is missing, so the lover by definition wants what he does not have. She finds the principle enacted in Alkibiades’ conduct in the Symposium, a lack deliberately preserved, “almost as self-consciously as Tristan, who places a drawn sword between himself and Iseult,” and she extends it into language itself, arguing that all utterance shows the structure of desire. Jacques Lacan, in the Transference seminar, gives the identity its starkest form: desire is lack, and the phallus is the signifier raised to mark the place of what can never be possessed. Richard Sorabji supplies the Stoic boundary: welcoming a present object is not desiring it, since desire implies absence. Esther Perel, following Adam Phillips, makes the law clinical, insisting that the monogamous, like the very rich, must find their poverty. Alejandro Jodorowsky closes the circuit affirmatively: lack acknowledged rather than filled becomes seduction’s strength, while the aspiration to complete oneself turns castrating.
the object of its lack, for desire, because desire is lack, is in our experience identical to the very instrument of desire, the phallus.
Lacan asserts the structural identity of desire and lack, arguing that the phallus, raised to the function of signifier, occupies the symbolic place of what desire, as constitutive absence, can never possess.
, The Seminar of Jacques Lacan, Book VIII: Transference, 2015thesis
The Greek word eros denotes ‘want,’ ‘lack,’ ‘desire for that which is missing.’ The lover wants what he does not have.
Carson grounds her entire analysis of erotic experience in the etymological fact that eros is structurally defined as lack, making absence the generative condition rather than accidental feature of desire.
, Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay, 1986thesis
When I desire you a part of me is gone: your lack is my lack. I would not be in want of you unless you had partaken of me.
Carson demonstrates through lyric citation that erotic desire entails a radical self-diminishment — the beloved’s absence constitutes a literal expropriation from the lover’s own body and self.
, Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay, 1986thesis
Eros is lack: Alkibiades reifies the lover’s guiding principle almost as self-consciously as Tristan, who places a drawn sword between himself and Iseult.
Carson reads Alkibiades’ gesture in the Symposium as a deliberate embodiment of the principle that eros requires maintained distance — lack must be preserved, not resolved, for desire to subsist.
, Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay, 1986thesis
This is what seduction is: a lack transmuted into strength by desire. If I did not acknowledge this lack, if I aspired to complete myself, I would become castrating.
Jodorowsky’s Queen of Wands articulates a positive economy of lack in which the acknowledgment of incompleteness, rather than its suppression, becomes the very source of erotic and creative power.
, The Way of Tarot: The Spiritual Teacher in the Cards, 2004thesis
It is nothing new to say that all utterance is erotic in some sense, that all language shows the structure of desire at some level.
Carson extends the desire-lack nexus from interpersonal eros into language itself, arguing that the structure of longing and absence that defines erotic experience also organises all human signification.
, Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay, 1986supporting
welcoming is not the same as desiring, which implies a lack.
Sorabji, in a Stoic-analytic register, confirms that desire’s defining feature is its implication of lack — the presence of the desired object would dissolve the desire, distinguishing it from mere pleasure or welcoming.
, Emotion and Peace of Mind: From Stoic Agitation to Christian Temptation, 2000supporting
If it is the forbidden that is exciting — if desire is fundamentally transgressive — then the monogamous are like the very rich. They have to find their poverty.
Perel, citing Adam Phillips, argues clinically that sustained desire requires the maintenance of a structural scarcity or prohibition — domesticity must manufacture lack in order to keep eros alive.
, Mating in captivity sex, lies and domestic bliss, 2007supporting
It’s hard to experience desire when you’re weighted down by concern… we need to reestablish a degree of differentiation and re-create some of the distance you had in the beginning.
Perel’s therapeutic practice translates the structure of desire-as-lack into clinical intervention, prescribing the deliberate re-introduction of separateness and distance as the precondition for erotic renewal.
, Mating in captivity sex, lies and domestic bliss, 2007supporting
Longing suggests instead a distance, but a never interrupted connection or union over that distance with whatever it is that is longed for, however remote the ob[ject].
McGilchrist distinguishes longing from wanting precisely on the axis of lack — longing maintains a paradoxical union-across-distance that maps closely onto the structural incompleteness Carson and Lacan identify in desire.
, The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World, 2009supporting
the little o is the 0 — minus phi, o = 0. In other words it is from this angle that the phi comes to symbolise what is lacking to the 0 in order to be the noetic 0, the 0 in full exercise.
Lacan formalises the lack-structure of desire through algebraic notation, showing how the objet petit a represents what the Other is structurally missing, grounding desire’s perpetual incompleteness in symbolic logic.
, The Seminar of Jacques Lacan, Book VIII: Transference, 2015supporting
the emotional state for which we make this ‘Love’ responsible rises in souls aspiring to be knit in the closest union with some beautiful object, and that this aspiration takes two forms.
Plotinus situates desire within a Neoplatonic economy of aspiration-toward-union, providing an earlier metaphysical precedent for the idea that desire arises from felt separation between the soul and its object.
, The Six Enneads, 270supporting
no matter what we achieve or accumulate, the initial excitement wears off, and we once again become dissatisfied. We cannot enjoy what we have, so we set our sights on something else.
Grof’s addiction-psychology perspective illustrates the insatiability structurally implied by desire-as-lack — the fulfilled desire generates a new lack rather than satisfaction, confirming the cyclical engine of want.
, The Thirst for Wholeness: Attachment, Addiction, and the Spiritual Path, 1993supporting
Nothing is further from the image of Socrates than the radiation of love which emanates, for example, from the message of Christ. Neither effusion, nor gift, nor mysticism, nor ecstasy.
Lacan differentiates the Socratic-erotic economy of desire from the Christian agape economy, implying that the former is grounded in structural lack while the latter attempts a logic of fullness and gift.
, The Seminar of Jacques Lacan, Book VIII: Transference, 2015aside
Transference arises in almost every psychoanalytic relationship when the patient insists on falling in love with the doctor, despite the latter’s determined aloofness, warnings and discouragement.
Carson reads psychoanalytic transference as a clinical demonstration of desire’s projective, lack-driven structure — the patient concocts a love-object to fill an internal absence, regardless of the actual other.
, Eros the Bittersweet: An Essay, 1986aside