Ambivalent

Ambivalence occupies a contested position across the depth-psychology corpus. Its conceptual career begins with Bleuler's coinage and Jung's early engagement with the term as a formal, rather than merely pathological, property of psychic life — the simultaneous containment of opposites within a single thing. Jung, in the 1925 seminars and in his contribution to the Bleuler discussion preserved in Collected Works 18, insists that ambivalence is a 'monistic conception' in which contrasting aspects inhere in one and the same entity, distinguishing it sharply from the dualistic model of warring opposites. Hillman radicalizes this rehabilitation: against psychiatry's pejorative linkage of ambivalence with schizophrenia, he argues that living in ambivalence — holding yea and nay, light and darkness together — constitutes 'a way in itself,' the natural concomitant of psychic wholeness. In the developmental and attachment literature, ambivalence migrates into the clinical taxonomy of insecure attachment: Ainsworth's anxious-ambivalent category, elaborated by Bowlby, Ogden, and Flores, designates an infant's chronic uncertainty before an inconsistent caregiver, producing dysregulation, preoccupation, and impaired autoregulation across the lifespan. Motivational Interviewing theory, represented by Miller, recruits ambivalence as a normative staging post in the change process rather than a fixed character defect. Neumann links ambivalence to the uroboric phase — a primal pleasure-pain unity predating differentiation. Taken together, the corpus charts a persistent tension between ambivalence as pathology and ambivalence as the necessary structure of depth.

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ambivalence is natural, as the necessary concomitant to the ambiguity of psychic wholeness whose light is in a twilight state. Neither ambivalence nor twilight consciousness is per se a pathological condition

Hillman argues that ambivalence is an inherent feature of psychic wholeness rather than a symptom of ego defect, and that it constitutes a legitimate 'way in itself' alongside the way of decision.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015thesis

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Ambivalence is a monistic conception; there the opposites do not appear as split apart, but as contrasting aspects of one and the same thing.

Jung distinguishes ambivalence from dualistic conflict by defining it as a monistic structure in which opposing qualities inhere simultaneously within a single psychic entity.

Jung, C.G., Analytical Psychology: Notes of the Seminar Given in 1925, 1989thesis

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The concept of ambivalence is probably a valuable addition to our terminology. In one and the same thing the opposite may be contained… a simultaneous one-in-the-other: a uniform given.

Jung endorses Bleuler's concept as a structural description of psychic simultaneity, while objecting to the claim that ambivalence is itself a driving force rather than a formal property.

Jung, C.G., Collected Works Volume 18: The Symbolic Life, 1976thesis

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the uroboric phase is ruled by an ambivalent pleasure-pain feeling which attaches to all experiences that revert to the uroboric level or are overcome by it.

Neumann situates ambivalence at the primordial level of the uroboric phase, where pleasure and pain remain undifferentiated within a single archaic experience of rebirth and dissolution.

Neumann, Erich, The Origins and History of Consciousness (Princeton, 2019thesis

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The mother of the infant who develops insecure-ambivalent attachment patterns is inconsistent and unpredictable in her response to the infant… this caregiver might stimulate the infant into high arousal even when the infant is attempting to down-regulate.

Ogden traces insecure-ambivalent attachment to a caregiver's intrusive inconsistency, which produces chronic arousal dysregulation and an inability to trust the reliability of the attachment relationship.

Ogden, Pat, Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy, 2006thesis

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The person with this attachment history is 'ambivalent' because of the inconsistent attunement and unpredictable intrusiveness of the caregiver and the undeveloped capacity for autoregulation.

Ogden explains the clinical label 'ambivalent' in attachment terms as a structural consequence of early relational inconsistency, manifesting in adulthood as emotional lability and preoccupied relatedness.

Ogden, Pat, Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy, 2006thesis

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most people who need to make a change are ambivalent about doing so… It is a normal human experience. In fact, it is an ordinary part of the change process, a step along the way.

Miller reframes ambivalence as a normative and even productive phase in the psychology of change, repositioning it from obstacle to expectable transitional state.

Miller, William R., Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change, Third Edition, 2013thesis

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the childhood experiences of persons prone to make anxious and ambivalent attachments… individuals of this sort are far more likely than are those who grow up secure to have had parents who… responded to them irritably.

Bowlby anchors the anxious-ambivalent attachment personality in specific childhood relational histories marked by parental irritability, inconsistency, and emotional unavailability.

Bowlby, John, Loss: Sadness and Depression (Attachment and Loss, Volume III), 1980supporting

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Ambivalent caregivers are unpredictable in their capacity to see and respond to baby's distress… Baby is never able to rest into the caregiver's availability.

Winhall describes the somatic and relational consequences of ambivalent caregiving, emphasizing the infant's inability to establish a stable felt sense of the caregiver's availability.

Winhall, Jan, Treating Trauma and Addiction with the Felt Sense Polyvagal Modelsupporting

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Insecure-ambivalent infants protest when the primary caregiver leaves the room, but cannot be pacified when they are reunited. Insecure-ambivalent children tend to either bury their heads in the caregiver's lap or cling furiously.

Flores provides behavioral specificity to the insecure-ambivalent category, detailing the paradoxical proximity-seeking and inconsolability that characterizes this attachment pattern in Ainsworth's Strange Situation.

Flores, Philip J., Addiction as an Attachment Disorder, 2004supporting

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individuals' experiences in romantic relationships followed the secure/avoidant/anxious–ambivalent typology described by Ainsworth. The distribution of the three types of romantic attachment in a non-clinical sample of adults corresponded closely with those found in children.

Hazan and Shaver's research, summarized here, demonstrates that the anxious-ambivalent category persists into adult romantic attachment, validating Ainsworth's developmental typology across the lifespan.

Bowlby, John, John Bowlby and Attachment Theory (Makers of Modern, 2014supporting

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Puer and senex are therefore each both positive and negative… we shall find it impossible to say good of one without saying bad of the other as long as the two remain in polar opposition.

Hillman's analysis of the puer-senex archetype demonstrates structural ambivalence at the archetypal level, where positive and negative valuations are inseparable so long as the poles remain split.

Hillman, James, Senex and Puer: An Aspect of the Historical and Psychological Present, 1967supporting

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in the sambhoga-kāya they are the positive and negative principles united in one and the same figure… there is no position without its negation. Where there is faith, there is doubt.

Jung's foreword, preserved here, uses Tibetan symbolic theology to illustrate that ambivalence — the union of positive and negative in one figure — is a structural feature of archetypal experience.

Evans-Wentz, W. Y., The Tibetan Book of the Great Liberation, 1954supporting

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The self, however, is absolutely paradoxical in that it represents in every respect thesis and antithesis, and at the same time synthesis.

Jung characterizes the Self as inherently paradoxical and therefore structurally ambivalent, containing thesis and antithesis simultaneously — a formulation that grounds the concept in the deepest level of Jungian metapsychology.

Jung, Carl Gustav, Psychology and Alchemy, 1944supporting

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Submission to the fundamental contrariety of human nature amounts to an acceptance of the fact that the psyche is at cross purposes with itself.

Jung frames the acceptance of psychic contradiction — the condition underlying ambivalence — as a central requirement of the alchemical opus and of psychological individuation.

Jung, Carl Gustav, The Practice of Psychotherapy: Essays on the Psychology of the Transference and Other Subjects, 1954aside

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