The torment continues until the soul-work (Psyche's tasks) is completed and the psyche is reunited with a transformed eros. Eros needs to regress, it would seem, into a state of burning unrest and agitation, dominated by the mother, by Penia or deprivation, in order to realize that he has himself been felled by his arrow and has found his mate, Psyche. He gains psychic consciousness. Only then does the union take place, and for it the sanctification of the gods is required. Their long separation, Psyche's tasks, and their mutual tor-ments-being burned, chained, dragged-present the images of erotic obsession complete even to its sadomasochistic aspects. With-out wings the soul cannotsoar above its immediate compulsions, can gain no perspective. For our psyche to unite legitimately with the creative and bring to sanctified birth what it carries, we evidently need to realize both our loss of primordial love through betrayal and separation and also our wrong relation to eros-the enthrallment, servility, pain, sadness, longing: all aspects of erotic mania. As Jung says, ". .. for always the ardour of love transmutes fear and compul-sion into a higher free type of feeling." Seen against the oedipal background, these torments cannot redeem, since in that myth com-pulsion overcomes love; in our tale, despite the same phenomena of torment, love-because it finds soul-overcomes compulsion.
— James Hillman
Hillman is tracking something precise here: Eros does not begin the myth knowing he has been struck by his own arrow. He begins it in an arrangement that suits him — invisibility, visitation in darkness, a love that costs nothing because it demands no recognition. The wound that changes everything is the discovery that he himself is subject to what he inflicts. That is not a lesson. It is a catastrophe that restructures the soul.
The torment Hillman names — the burning, the chains, the dragging — is not preliminary to the union. It is the condition under which the union becomes real rather than enchanted. Psyche's tasks are real labor inside that fire; Eros's regression into the mother's house, into deprivation and unrest, is the same. Both lose the fantasy that love can be had without the full weight of the other's existence landing on you.
What the passage refuses to offer is a shortcut through the longing. The soul that has not yet lost primordial love through betrayal and separation — the soul that is still in the arrangement — cannot yet bring what it carries to birth. Not because suffering purifies, which would be a redemption arc Hillman would reject, but because the wrong relation to eros (the servility, the enthrallment, the sadness) has to be known from inside, not managed from above. Wings come after, not before.
James Hillman·A Blue Fire: The Essential James Hillman·1989