we readily imagine that the object of our passion is the cause of this richness. 'Yesterday I was lonely and unhappy. Today I have met this person and suddenly feel so full and alive. It must be because of her.'
Welwood identifies the foundational misattribution that initiates passion's accretion: the inner fullness of unconditional resonance is projected outward and then clung to as if it belonged to an external object, generating obsessive dependency.
, Toward a Psychology of Awakening Buddhism, Psychotherapy,, 2000thesis