it does not refer to what you actually might or should have done otherwise. To understand necessity in this way makes mistakes tragic, rather than sins to be repented or accidents to be remedied.
Hillman argues that the modal ‘might’ of counter-factual regret is philosophically emptied by necessity, relocating moral weight from contingent possibility to tragic inevitability.
, The Soul’s Code: In Search of Character and Calling, 1996thesis