Learning to accept and relate to our vulnerability, by contrast, is a source of real inner power and strength. Fake power of the macho kind — which is really a form of control, tightness, and tension — has no real strength in it.
Welwood argues that authentic inner strength is grounded in accepting vulnerability rather than maintaining defensive ego-control, inverting the common cultural equation of strength with hardness.
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