Betrayal

The unfolding through the various stages from trust through betrayal to forgiveness presents a movement of consciousness. The first condition of primal trust is largely unconscious and pre-anima. It is followed by betrayal, where the word is broken by life.

Hillman’s summary thesis: betrayal is not a terminus but a developmental phase in a tripartite arc — trust, betrayal, forgiveness — each stage constituting a movement of consciousness and a phase in anima-development.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015thesis

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This initiation into a new consciousness of reality comes through betrayal, through the father’s failure and broken promise… The father demonstrates in his own person the possibility of betrayal in even the closest trust.

Hillman argues that betrayal by the father is an intentional initiatory act, a revelation of treacherousness inherent in manhood itself — not an aberration but a moral demonstration.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015thesis

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The paradox of the trust/betrayal dyad, then, is that each is presupposed by the other. Without trust, no depth; without depth, no true betrayal.

Hollis formulates the structural paradox at the heart of betrayal: trust and betrayal are co-constitutive, and genuine intimacy can only exist at the depth that renders one vulnerable to betrayal.

Hollis, James, Swamplands of the Soul: New Life in Dismal Places, 1996thesis

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It may well be that betrayal has no other positive outcome but forgiveness, and that the experience of forgiveness is possible only if one has been betrayed.

Hillman proposes forgiveness as the sole positive telos of betrayal, itself only accessible through the full weight of having been wronged — bitterness transformed into the salt of wisdom.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015thesis

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The need for security within which one can expose one’s primal world, where one can deliver oneself up and not be destroyed, is basic and evident in analysis.

Hillman situates the context of betrayal within the analytic and patriarchal frame of primal trust, where the longing to be wholly known precedes the wound of betrayal.

Hillman, James, A Blue Fire: The Essential James Hillman, 1989thesis

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One cannot re-establish primal trust once one has left Eden. One now knows that promises hold only to a certain point. Life takes care of vows, fulfilling them or breaking them.

Hillman argues that betrayal is irreversible in its transformation of the psyche: the post-betrayal subject cannot return to primal trust but must begin all new relationships from a different existential ground.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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It is well possible that we encounter this cynicism—especially in younger people—because enough attention has not been paid to the meaning of betrayal, especially in the transformation of the puer aeternus.

Hillman identifies cynicism as the pathological foreclosure of the betrayal process — a hardening that prevents the transformation of the puer and leaves the psyche stranded in reactive defensiveness.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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For women who have been betrayed as children, there is a continuing expectation that one will also be betrayed by lover, employer, and culture.

Estés extends betrayal into a sociocultural and matrilineal frame, showing how early betrayal installs a pervasive expectation-structure that shapes women’s relationships across all domains of life.

Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Ph D, Women Who Run With the Wolves Myths and Stories of the Wild, 2017supporting

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Self-betrayal is perhaps what we are really most worried about… At the moment of betrayal, these delicate and very sensitive seed pearls become merely grit, grains of dust.

Hillman identifies self-betrayal as the deepest danger following betrayal by another — the moment when one’s own most intimate disclosures are retroactively degraded, turning the cherished into the shameful.

Hillman, James, A Blue Fire: The Essential James Hillman, 1989supporting

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The most bitter pill in betrayal, then, may be our grudging recognition, often years later, that we ourselves were part of the collusive ballet which led in time to betrayal.

Hollis implicates the betrayed in the structure of betrayal itself, arguing that shadow recognition — acknowledging one’s own collusion — is the threshold to genuine enlargement of consciousness.

Hollis, James, Swamplands of the Soul: New Life in Dismal Places, 1996supporting

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The experience of betrayal is part of a masculine mystery. One cannot help but remark upon the accumulation of anima symbolism constellated with the betrayal motif.

Hillman reads the Passion narrative as evidence that the drama of betrayal is inseparable from the constellation of the feminine — anima figures proliferate precisely as the betrayal deepens toward death.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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This willingness to be a betrayer brings us closer to the brutish condition where we are not so much minions of a supposedly moral God and immoral Devil, but of an amoral nature.

Hillman reframes the capacity to betray as a form of anima-integration — assimilating nature’s amoral treachery into the self as a mark of psychological maturity rather than moral corruption.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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This rage is the inevitable result of a coming together of heretofore dissociated parts of the psyche and it represents a resistance to incarnation and to consciousness.

Kalsched locates betrayal within the traumatized psyche’s self-care system, where the archetypal guardian’s rage at perceived betrayal mirrors the original wound and resists integrative consciousness.

Kalsched, Donald, The Inner World of Trauma: Archetypal Defences of the Personal Spirit, 1996supporting

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That they do not, that they misperceive and fail to recognize one’s essence (which can anyway only be revealed through living), feels a bitter betrayal.

Hillman connects the puer aeternus complex to a specific mode of experienced betrayal: the wound of not being fully known by those in whom one has vested the fantasy of total recognition.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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To live on is to make contact in some way at some time with the possibility of betrayal; to live on in times of extremity… is, very likely, to make contact with betrayal itself.

Nussbaum articulates the tragic-philosophical insight that betrayal is not accidental but ontologically tied to the condition of temporal, embodied existence — to live is to remain exposed to it.

Martha C. Nussbaum, The Fragility of Goodness: Luck and Ethics in Greek Tragedy and Philosophy, 1986supporting

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The tragic drama now hastens to its end with Christ’s encounter with the hostile ‘multitude.’

Edinger situates the archetypal betrayal narrative — Judas, the kiss, the crowd — as the pivotal axis around which the Christian individuation drama turns toward its sacrificial telos.

Edinger, Edward F., The Christian Archetype: A Jungian Commentary on the Life of Christ, 1987supporting

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This story—for all its apparent anti-Semitism—has more to it than that… I believe it has something to say to our theme, betrayal.

Hillman introduces the father-son parable as the narrative ground for his entire meditation on betrayal, foregrounding the deliberate pedagogical act of the father who refuses to catch his falling son.

Hillman, James, Senex & Puer, 2015supporting

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God, in his supreme wisdom, had chosen Judas as an instrument for the completion of Christ’s work of redemption. This necessary instrument, without whose help humanity would never have had a share in salvation, could not possibly be damned.

Jung presents the Judas problem as a meditation on the necessary betrayer — the one whose act of betrayal is paradoxically indispensable to redemption, raising the question of whether betrayal can be both sinful and divinely sanctioned.

Jung, Carl Gustav, Symbols of Transformation, 1952aside

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Jennifer Freyd has written about betrayal trauma theory, in which trauma at [the hands of those depended upon for care] constitutes a particular category of harm.

Siegel references betrayal trauma theory as a neuropsychological framework that intersects with depth-psychological accounts of how violated trust in primary caregivers produces lasting disruptions in epistemic and relational functioning.

Siegel, Daniel J., The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are, 2020aside

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